TITLE: The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A #@%!
AUTHOR: Mark Manson
Overall: ★★★★ (4)
In this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be “positive” all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people.
For decades, we’ve been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. “F**k positivity,” Mark Manson says. “Let’s be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it.” In his wildly popular Internet blog, Manson doesn’t sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is—a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is his antidote to the coddling, let’s-all-feel-good mindset that has infected modern society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up.
Manson makes the argument, backed both by academic research and well-timed poop jokes, that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade, but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited—”not everybody can be extraordinary, there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault.” Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek.
There are only so many things we can give a f**k about so we need to figure out which ones really matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about experience. A much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eye moment of real-talk, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humor, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them lead contented, grounded lives.
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THE CRITICAL POINTS
WRITING: Mark Manson could be a comedian, easily. His writing style is fun, light, energetic, and full of laughs. However, it is also full of insight and wisdom.
STORY: Obviously, The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A #@%! Isn’t a novel – I’d classify it as self-help.
Mark covers so many important life lessons in this book, but some of the main topics that stood out to me were:
- The Value of Suffering “If suffering is inevitable, if our problems in life are unavoidable, then the question we should be asking is not “How do I stop suffering?” but “Why am I suffering—for what purpose?””
- The Choice “Choosing to not respond to the events in our lives is still a response to the events in our lives.”
- Rejection Makes Your Life Better “…we need to reject something. Otherwise, we stand for nothing.”
This is a really quick read, with lots of relatable stories/examples throughout. So, if you are the type of person who is constantly GIVING A #@%! About everything… then this just might be the book for you. You’ll read it and laugh. You’ll read it an relate. You’ll read it and realize what you are doing wrong, could be doing better, and should be doing now to stop GIVING A #@%! about everything.
APPEARANCE: The cover shown above is very similar to the one I have, but also slightly different. Where this one says ‘THE SUBTLE ART OF NOT GIVING A F*UCK’ mine says, ‘THE SUBTLE ART OF NOT GIVING A #@%!’. I like the one I have better, no real reason other than #@%! Seems to be a bit subtler than F*UCK.
MY FAVORITE QUOTE: “The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience.”
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