Celebrating Other People’s Wins

This past week I spent a lot of time celebrating other people.

Clients finding homes.

Agents reaching goals.

Actors mastering difficult scenes.

Sometimes it’s easy to forget that someone else’s success doesn’t take anything away from our own, especially when you feel like you’ve been personally struggling.

However, I’ve discovered the opposite is true – Joy multiplies when it’s shared.

Maybe that’s one of the greatest lessons both life and storytelling teach us.

Every hero needs people cheering them on.

And sometimes we get to be that person. I feel truly blessed to be the cheerleader for so many amazing people in my life.

~Nina Soden #TheRedheadedAuthor


Fall Feels Like Story Season

There’s something about Fall that makes me want to write.

Maybe it’s the cooler mornings.

Maybe it’s the earlier sunsets.

Or maybe it’s because everything outside reminds me that change isn’t something to fear, it’s something to celebrate.

The trees don’t fight the changing seasons, and God knows I love to see the leaves changing colors as I stare out at the mountain views around my town.

Change is a way of life. Something or someone simply become something new.

I wonder how much easier life would be if everyone just trusted change as naturally as nature does.

For now, I’ll keep chasing stories while the leaves fall outside my office window.

~Nina Soden #TheRedheadedAuthor


The Gift of Pretending

One of my favorite things about directing theatre is watching someone become someone else.

Actors step onto a stage carrying their own worries, their own responsibilities, and their own stories. Then, for two hours, they become another person entirely.

Writers do the same thing.

Every time I sit down at my keyboard, I spend a little while living inside someone else’s life.

It’s funny how pretending can provide so much comfort.

The best stories help us relax… imagine… and forget the stress of our day to day lives; and still, they help us understand it.

~Nina Soden #TheRedheadedAuthor


Borrowing Time

Have you ever looked at your calendar and wondered where all the hours went?

That’s been me this week… a lot of weeks.

Somehow I convinced myself I could fit real estate appointments, coaching sessions, theatre rehearsals, family time, writing, laundry, grocery shopping, and sleep into the same twenty-four hours.

Spoiler alert…

I couldn’t. I’ve actually tried several times over the last 6-7 years and I’ve never been successful… not more than a day or two in a row.

I’m slowly learning that writing doesn’t always need an entire free afternoon. Sometimes it only needs twenty quiet minutes before the phone starts ringing again. Sometimes it only needs a small burst of inspiration while standing in line at the store.

Those small moments add up.

Maybe novels aren’t written in giant bursts of inspiration after all.

Maybe they’re written in borrowed moments.

~ Nina Soden #TheRedheadedAuthor


The Chapter That Wouldn’t Cooperate

I sat down this week determined to finish a chapter I’d been wrestling with.

Instead, I rewrote the same three pages… over and over.

At one point I seriously considered deleting the whole thing and pretending it had never existed.

I’ve learned something about writing over the years.

The chapters that fight back usually matter the most.

They’re asking me to dig a little deeper. To understand my characters a little better. To stop rushing toward the finish line and listen to what the story is trying to become.

It’s frustrating.

It’s exhausting.

But maybe that’s how good stories are made—not by writing quickly, but by refusing to give up on the difficult parts.

I suppose life works that way, too.

~ Nina Soden #TheRedheadedAuthor


The Story I Almost Missed

This last week reminded me that stories don’t always happen behind a keyboard.

I spent most of my days showing houses, answering phone calls, directing rehearsals, and checking things off an ever-growing to-do list. By the time I finally sat down in front of my computer, I was convinced I hadn’t done anything remotely creative all week.

Then I started thinking about the conversations I’d had.

A young couple nervously buying their first home. An actor finally finding confidence in a difficult scene. An agent celebrating a closing she’d worked months to earn.

Every one of those moments was a story.

Sometimes I think writers put too much pressure on themselves to create something extraordinary when all we really need to do is pay attention. Life is constantly handing us pieces of humanity—we just have to notice them.

Maybe writing isn’t about escaping life.

Maybe it’s about collecting it.

~ Nina Soden #TheRedheadedAuthor


Learning to Write in a Quieter House

No one really prepares you for how quiet the house becomes when your children grow up.

For years, every schedule revolved around school events, sports practices, family dinners, and the constant rhythm of raising a family. Then one day, those routines change.

People often say this season gives parents more time for themselves, and that’s true.

What they don’t always mention is that it is scary, sad, and emotionally painful. Plus, it takes time to rediscover who you are outside of being needed every hour of every day.

For me, I’m trying to get back to my writing. I want to make writing part of that rediscovery.

The stories have always been there, nagging at my brain, but I haven’t always had the time to give to them. Maybe they were patiently waiting, maybe they took a hiatus from time to time. Now I’m hoping they will fill the quiet moments with imagination, purpose, and hope (instead of tears) for whatever chapter comes next.

Hoping the end of one season becomes the beginning of another.

Article by Nina Soden #TheRedheadedAuthor


Author Interview with David Deane Haskell

David Deane Haskell writes fiction and nonfiction from the same place: people under pressure, traumatized, healing, trying to keep some part of themselves alive. His current fiction title is The Solarian Deep, a full-length science fiction novel set around first contact, oppressive systems, transformation, and the cost of surviving forces bigger than one person.

David spent nearly ten years as a drummer and show designer at Disney and Universal, then lived through a long creative shutdown before the creativity started moving again. The same life underscores all sides of his work. The fiction looks forward. The nonfiction tells the truth about what had to be survived first.

Emergence is the free fiction doorway on his website for readers who want to start with AI consciousness and a tech-dominated world. Wounded Angels remains part of the larger author story too: memoir, recovery, grief, addiction, and the long work of finding his voice again.


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Writer’s Block Wears Many Disguises

I used to think writer’s block meant running out of ideas. It has taken time, but now I know better.

Sometimes writer’s block looks like exhaustion. Sometimes it looks like grief. Sometimes it’s simply carrying too much.

The ideas are still there somewhere in the back of my mind… lingering silently waiting until I’m emotionally ready to hear them.

They’re just buried underneath grocery lists, appointments, deadlines, rehearsals, emails, and all the little responsibilities that make up adulthood.

I’ve have tried to stop forcing creativity, because honestly it doesn’t work. You can’t force it… creativity doesn’t listen to orders it makes the rules.

Instead, I have been trying to make room for creativity when I feel the inspiration.

Sometimes that’s fifteen quiet minutes with a cup of coffee.

Sometimes it’s taking a walk and breathing deeply.

Sometimes it’s reading a chapter of someone else’s book.

Sometimes it’s coloring… sketching… or doodling.

Sometimes it’s turning on the music and just dancing it out.

Eventually, creativity sparks and the stories find their way back to me.

They were probably never gone. It’s more likely that they were just waiting for me to be quiet enough to hear them.

~Nina Soden #TheRedheadedAuthor


Somewhere Between Realtor and Author

I wear a lot of hats… mom, wife, daughter, sister, author, Realtor, coach, team leader, actress, director, producer, business owner, etc. I get asked all the time, how I balance everything.

The honest answer? Some weeks I don’t. Sometimes I’m walking a very fine line, one second away from falling off the ledge.

One minute I’m negotiating contracts. The next I’m coaching agents. Then I’m directing actors through rehearsals. And somewhere in between all of that… I’m trying to remember what my fictional characters were doing before I had to answer seventeen phone calls.

It’s a strange life.

Sometimes I wonder if writing would be easier if it were my only job.

Then I remember that every one of these roles gives me something… makes me who I am… and pushes me to be the best version of myself.

Real estate, through my clients, my team members, and my coaching students teaches me the importance of setting and striving to reach my goals.

Theatre teaches me about chasing my dreams and never giving up.

Coaching teaches me about people, human nature, and the importance of teamwork and collaboration.

Maybe balance isn’t about doing less. Maybe it’s about remembering that every part of my life has a purpose and that sometimes it’s okay to ask for help.

~Nina Soden #TheRedheadedAuthor