If you’ve ever read a captivating novel and thought, I could do that, you’re not alone. Many aspiring writers dream of having their work published, imagining that writing a novel is an exciting, glamorous endeavor—filled with quiet mornings at coffee shops, elegant book launches, and long days spent immersed in creative bliss. But as someone who juggles writing with a full-time career in real estate, a busy household with a husband and two kids, and endless daily responsibilities, I can tell you the reality of writing a novel is much less glamorous. It’s often chaotic, exhausting, and involves far more sacrifice than most people realize. But for those who are committed to making it happen, it’s also incredibly rewarding.
I want to pull back the curtain on the real writing life, the highs, the lows, and everything in between. As a part-time writer, I’ve learned that writing a novel requires more than just passion; it demands dedication, resilience, and a lot of time management. Here’s what it really takes to write a novel when life keeps you busy.
1. Finding Time in a Packed Schedule
First, let’s talk about time—or, more accurately, the lack of it.
I work as a full-time real estate agent in North Alabama. (I’m an Associate Broker with Keller Williams Realty Madison… If you are looking to purchase a Home Sweet Home in North Alabama, call me). Between client meetings, property showings, endless paperwork, and negotiating deals, my days are long. By the time I wrap up a busy day of work, there’s barely time to make dinner and take care of household chores. And did I mention I’m a mom? Oh, and I have a husband—who, bless him, is supportive but also juggling his own career and responsibilities.
So, where does writing fit in?
It doesn’t. Not easily, at least.
For many writers like me, the time to write is carved out in small pockets throughout the day. I don’t have the luxury of dedicating full days or even hours at a time to my craft. I’ve learned to write in between the cracks of life—during lunch breaks, after everyone else is in bed, or on the weekend when I can sneak in some quiet time in the early morning hours with my coffee. Sometimes, I might write for only 10 minutes at a time, but those minutes add up. Consistency, even in small doses, is key.
2. Motivation vs. Exhaustion: The Daily Battle
When I finally do find a few minutes to write, and trust me it is NOT every day, the struggle doesn’t end with just having the time. There’s the battle against my own exhaustion. After a long, draining day of work, family commitments, and constant running around, it’s easy to tell myself, I’ll write tomorrow. But here’s the thing: tomorrow rarely comes. The key to making progress on a novel isn’t waiting for the right moment—it’s pushing through the tiredness and getting the words down anyway.
Motivation is a tricky beast. Some days, inspiration flows effortlessly, and I can’t wait to get my thoughts down on paper. But other days, the words feel stuck, and the blank page mocks me. On those tough days, it’s all about showing up—forcing myself to write even when I’d rather be in bed, watching Netflix with a cup of hot coffee. Because writing a novel is less about waiting for inspiration and more about commitment.
When you’re balancing a career and a family, the pressure to make time for writing often feels overwhelming. But I’ve learned that motivation often comes after you start. Even if I only write a few sentences, I’ve made progress, and I celebrate even those small wins. So, even when exhaustion makes it tempting to quit, I remind myself that every word written is one step closer to finishing my next novel.
3. The Perfectionism Trap
Another challenge of writing while managing a busy life is the urge to be perfect. It’s easy to think that if I can’t write in perfect conditions (like a quiet office space with no distractions), then I shouldn’t write at all. But over the years, I’ve come to realize that chasing perfection is a surefire way to get stuck.
Some days, I’ll write a chapter that feels like pure gold, and I’ll be so proud of it. But other days, I’ll look at the page and wonder if it even makes sense. That’s part of the process. I’ve learned to embrace imperfection and accept that not every word will be brilliant. In fact, most of it won’t be. But that’s okay.
The first draft is about getting the story out of my head and onto the page. It’s not about crafting the perfect sentence or worrying about every little detail. I’ve learned to let go of perfectionism and trust that I can always revise later. Right now, the goal is just to keep moving forward.
4. Balancing the Creative and the Practical
Writing is an incredibly creative pursuit, but for part-time writers like me, the practical realities often demand just as much attention. Balancing my real estate career, family life, and writing means juggling priorities and figuring out how to make it all work.
Here’s an example: In real estate, every deal requires attention to detail, strategic planning, and a clear timeline. If I neglect any part of the process, it could cost me a sale. The same goes for my writing. If I don’t set goals, create a timeline, and stay organized, it’s easy for my novel to fall by the wayside.
Writing a novel, especially as a part-time writer, requires a certain level of practicality. It’s not just about getting lost in the creative process—it’s about understanding how to fit writing into an already packed schedule. That means setting small, achievable goals, breaking the novel into manageable chunks, and prioritizing my time. A chapter a week, might not sound like much, but over the course of a few months, it adds up. Planning is just as important as creativity when balancing writing with a busy life.
5. The Guilt of Not Writing Enough
If there’s one thing that haunts me, it’s the guilt of not writing enough. I’ll scroll through social media and see full-time writers posting about their word counts, writing retreats, and book deals. It’s easy to feel inadequate when it seems like everyone else has more time or more success. But I’ve come to realize that my journey is different, and that’s okay.
There’s no one-size-fits-all approach to writing. Just because my schedule is packed doesn’t mean I’m less of a writer. In fact, I think it’s made me more determined. Each time I sit down to write, even for a short period, I’m doing something that I love—and that in itself is a success.
Writing a novel while working full-time and managing family life isn’t easy. It’s full of sacrifices, moments of frustration, and a constant push against time. But it’s also one of the most rewarding experiences I’ve had. The feeling of finishing that first draft, even if it took months or years, is worth every second of effort.
6. Celebrating the Small Wins
Writing a novel is a long, sometimes lonely, and often difficult journey. But when you’re a part-time writer, every small victory counts. Whether it’s hitting your word count for the day, finishing a particularly tricky scene, or simply finding the time to write amidst a chaotic schedule, those moments of progress deserve to be celebrated.
There’s no need for grand gestures—just a moment of recognition that, despite all the obstacles life throws at you, you’re still moving forward. And eventually, that novel you’ve been working on—bit by bit—will be finished. And that, to me, is the greatest reward.
So, if you’re out there trying to write while managing a busy life, know that you’re not alone. Keep pushing forward. Your story is worth telling.
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Nina Soden 