Rewrites… Week One In Review

OMG… REWRITE HELL IS WHERE I AM RIGHT NOW!!! Yeah, I’m not really sure that is a thing, but right about now I am looking at my 6-week deadline/goal/challenge to get my book rewrites done and the e-book on the market… HAA HAA HAA! I seriously underestimated the extent to which my life would try to jump in and screw things up!

WORK | FAMILY | THEATRE | PETS | HOUSE WORK | GYMNASTICS | BIRTHDAY PARTIES | COOKING | THE LIST GOES ON….

These are just a few of the things that got in the way of me actually doing what I wanted and needed to do this week!

Okay, so here is my WEEK ONE IN REVIEW UPDATE:

Well, one week down and five to go! No, if you’re wondering, I don’t sound happy about that. Week one did not go at all like I had hoped. You see the task for week one was:

  • Week 1 – Reread the book and all editor’s notes

Did I complete week one’s task? NO! Am I going to give excuses and bitch and moun about why I didn’t complete my task? YOU BEAT I AM!

Well, for starters, work (my real job – and not just the fun pretending like I’m making a living as an author job) was CRAZY busy this week. I actually worked over my regular 8 hour shift EVERY DAY! Yes, and then I had theatre rehearsal Monday, Wednesday, and Sunday… not to mention there was one day when I was so sick/tired that I fell asleep on the couch sometime in the early evening and didn’t really wake up until the next morning (at some point I did wake up enough to talk to my husband, kiss the kids good night, and crawl into bed). Saturday was Up early – Cleaning – 1 Hour of Reading – Cooking Breakfast – Gymnastics – Birthday Party #1 – Cooking and Cleaning – Birthday Party #2 – Home to Bed!

So, over the course of the week I was able to put in a whooping total of 4 hours of reading in! Yup, you read that correctly – 4 HOURS! Did I finish the book? NO, I am an extremely SLOW reader – for pleasure and work! However, if I am honest with myself I am pretty impressed with the fact that I did get through 140 of the 250+ pages. So, I am over half way done, and not only did I read the first 140 pages I also was able to work through many of the editor notes (fixing issues, rewriting sentences, etc.) as I went along. So far there have been no major edits/editorial notes that will lead me to rearranging chapters (THANK YOU GOD!), and therefore I feel confident that moving into week 2 I can continue on the same path I am on now, and still end up right where I need to be for week 3!

Do I want to scream? YES

Why? Because today is the first day of week 2 and I had no time to read – none – nil – nought – zero – zilch – zip – You get the picture right? Yeah, if today is any indication as to how the rest of the week is going to be I just might be pulling my hair out by Sunday. And, trust me… my hair is my best feature – If I lose that, there will be little else to admire. 

So once again here is the plan:

  • Week 1 – Reread the book and all editor’s notes – (YEAH, THAT DIDN”T GO AS PLANNED)
  • Week 2 – Outline changes, rearrange chapters (if needed) based on editor’s notes – (NOT REALLY GOING TO NEED TO OUTLINE CHANGES AND REARRANGE CHAPTERS – I WILL JUST USE THIS WEEK TO FINISH THE REREAD!)
  • Week 3 – Rewrite cover to cover
  • Week 4 – Reread the book for content, timeline, character motivation
  • Week 5 – Reread the book for edits: grammar, spelling, etc.
  • Week 6 – Final changes, format, upload, and publish

So, after week one – are you still ready to take this journey with me? Come on, it will be fun! Check in next Monday to see how wild and crazy week two gets!

Beginnings ~ a Blood Angel novel by Nina Soden Coming soon to e-readers everywhere!

Beginnings ~ a Blood Angel novel by Nina Soden
Coming soon to e-readers everywhere!

🙂

…and the rewrites begin!

Woo Hoo… So, I got the email today, TODAY! The editor has sent back my final edits, and I am not entering the process of the 6-week rewrite! In my last post I set up a rather ambitious 6 week plan to get my book rewritten and published, and I will do my best to finish in that time, without making mistakes that will cause my book to suffer.

So once again here is the plan:

  • Week 1 – Reread the book and all editor’s notes
  • Week 2 – Outline changes, rearrange chapters (if needed) based on editor’s notes
  • Week 3 – Rewrite cover to cover
  • Week 4 – Reread the book for content, timeline, character motivation
  • Week 5 – Reread the book for edits: grammar, spelling, etc.
  • Week 6 – Final changes, format, upload, and publish

Wish me luck… because you probably won’t hear from me to much other than a quick weekly update along the way to keep you posted. I plan to do a Monday morning update at the end of each week… I will share my highs and lows, my tears and my joy… you get it!

Now I’m off….

Beginnings ~ a Blood Angel novel by Nina SodenComing soon to e-readers everywhere!

Beginnings ~ a Blood Angel novel by Nina Soden
Coming soon to e-readers everywhere!

I THINK I’M LOSING MY MIND!

I haven’t written in over six (6) months, and I think I’m losing my mind. It isn’t because of writers block, lack of ideas, or even a lack of desire. Its that I haven’t gotten my book back from the editor yet. I don’t blame her… the first or the second. Life happens and we move on.

Now, it is April 1st – the first day of the second quarter in 2013 – and I was hoping to already have BEGINNINGS – the 2nd book in The Blood Angel Series published by now, but I have yet to do the final rewrites. Oh well, life happens and we move on. I think that is going to be my new motto. lol

Well, since I don’t yet have Beginnings ready to be published I am going to do this – SET A GOAL! Yeah, I like goals, they give me something to strive for. So, this is my latest and greatest: Whenever I do get the book back from my editor… I will give myself 6 weeks to do the rewrites. It really shouldn’t take that long, but since I do work full-time (not as a writer), have two kids to take care of, and am a major character in a play right now that is still in the very busy rehearsal process… I kind of have a lot on my plate. Below is my writers plan, for whenever I get my edits back… this is just a little glimpse into my process as a writer:

  • Week 1 – Reread the book and all editor’s notes
  • Week 2 – Outline changes, rearrange chapters (if needed) based on editor’s notes
  • Week 3 – Rewrite cover to cover
  • Week 4 – Reread the book for content, timeline, character motivation
  • Week 5 – Reread the book for edits: grammar, spelling, etc.
  • Week 6 – Final changes, format, upload, and publish

To ambitious? Maybe, but I work best under pressure so I figure if I put it out there… I kind of have to try to meet the deadline. Now all I need is to get the book back from the editor so I can start the process.

Beginnings ~ a Blood Angel novel by Nina SodenComing soon to e-readers everywhere!

Beginnings ~ a Blood Angel novel by Nina Soden
Coming soon to e-readers everywhere!

Hmmm…. what to do until then?

AWAKEN – Press Release – FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE

March 6, 2013

 AWAKEN ~ a Blood Angel novel

by Nina Soden

Awaken - Cover

 HUNTSVILLE, ALABAMA March 5, 2013 – Awaken is set in a world very much like our own, yet Atlanta isn’t just an ordinary city and Alee Moyer isn’t just an ordinary girl. Having barely survived her childhood it will take the death of her father for the truth of her true bloodline to come out. It may mean losing her life, or at least her identity, but she cannot escape her true destiny as the first surviving Dhampir in history. Surrounded by a new world where the horror films she grew up watching have become reality and the most unlikely characters have become her lifeline, Alee will struggle to find herself and her purpose. Part horror thriller – part tender romance, Awaken will leave readers eagerly wanting more!

“From the opening scene to the final chapter, the characters in this book dive onto the page and demand your attention” Stated The Gena Monologues http://www.genamonologues.com/2012_09_01_archive.html

ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

Huntsville author, Nina Soden, has always been creative, in art, theatre, film – anything but singing! She earned her bachelor’s degree in Theatre and Military Science from Eastern Michigan University where she spent most of her time either on stage, rappelling down buildings, or working one of three jobs. After college she moved to Los Angeles, like so many other actors, in pursuit of her dreams. In 2008, after some major life changes, Nina self-published her first book PRIVATE WORDS UNSPOKEN, a compilation of poetry. Since then, her dreams have gotten bigger and she likes to think her storytelling ability has gotten better. She has done everything from secretarial work to business development and was even the Director of a private preschool. She has fired a M16, jumped out of a C130, and given birth – TWICE – but she always returns to her art.

Though she’ll forever be a Michigan girl at heart, she now lives in Alabama with her husband and two beautiful children. If she’s not working on her latest story, you can find her lounging with a good book, playing with her kids, or indulging in her unhealthy addiction to Starbucks coffee.

For additional information about Awaken, the debut novel in the Blood Angel series visit http://www.ninasoden.wordpress.com, or download Awaken to your kindle, Nook, iPad, or other e-reader, anywhere e-books are sold, today! ISBN: 978-1-46891-158-9

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2013 New Year’s Resolutions

Okay, we are 8 days into the new year and I have finally decided what I want my New Year’s Resolutions to be! NO IT IS NOT TO LATE. Actually I believe that it is never to late to come up with a New Year’s Resolution. The thing is, if I had just made some up on New Years Eve just so that I could start them on January 1st I would never have kept them. I would have picked things like…

  1. Give up Chocolate – GIVE ME A BREAK! There is no way in HELL that would have stuck more than a few hours.
  2. Workout Daily – HELLO? Who has time for a daily workout, unless you count the constant back and forth walking while working.

So, now that we are eight (8) days into the New Year I have come up with a list of resolutions that actually mean something to me, and because of that I think that I will be able to keep them.

  1. Love my husband better!
  2. Spend more one on one time with my children!
  3. Learn to cook – I am taking a once a week cooking lesson with my mother-in-law
  4. Join Hot Yoga! I loved yoga back in college – I’m not going to mention how long ago that was, but I am hoping to enjoy it again.
  5. Read more, just for fun!
  6. Get back into Theatre! I have my first audition (IN YEARS) on January 20th and 21st!
  7. Produce a show – Theatre of course! I have a meeting next week to discuss doing this in the next 6 months at the local university.
  8. WRITE WRITE WRITE! I want to finish book two (2) of the Blood Angel series – If I ever get it back from the editor.
  9. Produce a film – My husband is an AMAZING author, and he wrote this short film… years ago… and I would love to help him tweak it and put it together… maybe get a few hits online…. We shall see.

Okay, that is a pretty long list, and it really is more of a list of goals but I think that is okay. These are my goals/resolutions for 2013. Some are short-term but most of them are long-term.

So, what are your 2013 New Year’s Resolutions/Goals? If you didn’t make any why not do it now?!

Mayonnaise Jar & Two Beers…

Okay, I didn’t write this and I don’t know who did, but whoever did – thank you. My mom sent this to me and I couldn’t agree with its message any more than I do. I hope anyone now reading it can appreciate it asynchronous as I do!

Mayonnaise Jar & Two Beers…

When things in your life seem almost too much to handle; when 24 hours in a day are not enough, remember the Mayonnaise Jar and the 2 Beers.

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him.

When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with
golf balls.

He then asked the students if the jar was full.

They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly.

The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the
golf balls.

He then asked the students again if the jar was full.

They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar.

Of course, the sand filled up everything else.

He asked once more if the jar was full?

The students responded with a unanimous ‘yes.’

The professor then produced two real beers (not Bud or Miller) from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space between the sand.

The students laughed!

‘Now,’ said the professor as the laughter subsided, ‘I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life.

The golf balls are the important things—your family, your children, your health, your friends and your favorite passions—and if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.

The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house and your car..

The sand is everything else—the small stuff.

‘If you put the sand into the jar first,’ he continued, ‘there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls.

The same goes for life.

If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff you will never have room for the things that are important to you.

Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness.

Spend time with your children.

Spend time with your parents,
brothers and sisters.

Visit with grandparents.

Take your spouse out to dinner.

Play another 18 holes of golf.

There will always be time to clean the house, fix the disposal or deal with things from your job.

Take care of the golf balls first—the things that really matter.

Set your priorities.

The rest is just sand.

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the beer represented.

The professor smiled and said, ‘I’m glad you asked.’

The beer just shows you that no matter how full your life may seem, there’s always room for a couple of beers with a friend!

Dear Grandpa,

I always regretted that I was so far away when you passed. I never got to say goodbye, and still today that hurts. I wish I had visited more when I had the chance. I wish I had called, just to talk. Just to tell you I love you! Because I did, and I still do.

There hasn’t been a holiday, important moment or event in my life, or just a day that has gone by that you haven’t been with me in my heart. You’re my guardian angel that I talk to when I need guidance and somehow you always help me find the answers.

Last night, for the first time in years I couldn’t shut my eyes without seeing your face. I wish I could say that seeing you in my dreams made me smile, but it didn’t. I ended up quietly crying myself to sleep. No matter how close you got I couldn’t get my arms around you. I couldn’t hug you. You were always just out of reach.

Grandma was there too. Hand-in-hand you both looked just like I remembered you. I know that you’re together now, and happy again after so many years of being apart when she died, but even knowing that you’re happy doesn’t make the pain of missing you both any easier. I’m sorry if that sounds selfish, but you’re my grandpa and grandma and I feel like I can be a little selfish in my feels about you both being gone.

When you were finally close enough that I could reach you, you held out your hand to me. But when I tried to go to you a hand on my shoulder stopped me. “They’re not here for you. They’re here for me.” It was your son, my Uncle. You know he hasn’t been well, not for the last few years. He is back in the hospital again, and he isn’t doing well. Lets just say he is stubborn, like you always were! Like my dad. Like me! Well, honestly I don’t think there is anyone in our family that isn’t at least a little stubborn. I don’t think stubbornness is always a bad thing – it can be a strength, and I thank you for that. However in this case it is a bad thing. He is choosing to be stubborn instead of going to the doctor when he needs to, instead of listening to his doctor’s advice, and instead of eating right and taking care of himself.

His stubbornness is digging his early grave, and Grandpa, I’m not ready to lose him yet. I don’t feel like I’ve had time to say goodbye yet, or to tell him that I love him and always will. Even being home for the holidays wasn’t enough. he seemed so fragile and I was afraid to touch him because I didn’t want to hurt him. it’s silly I know. I should have just taken him in my arms and hugged him, cried, told him he I will always love him, screamed at him to fight to live if not for him but for me – for all of his nieces and nephews that love him.

I guess I’m just asking for a little more time. Instead of taking him home with you, please just be his guardian angel and help him push through this, like you do for me whenever I need help.

I love you grandpa, and I miss you every day. Give grandma a big hug for me and tell her I love and miss her too.

Nina

November 2012 – 30 Days of Thankfulness

So, like so many other people out there I gave thanks throughout the month of November. 30 days of thankfulness to be exact. Now looking back on the long month of giving thanks I wanted to reflect on everything I was and still am thankful for… to remember it for all time. Who knows, maybe next year my list will be the same – maybe not.

Day one (1) – I’m thankful for my beautiful children and their contagious laughter that always makes me smile. I don’t ever think a day goes by that I am not thankful for this!

Day two (2) – I’m thankful for my husband who works so hard to provide for our family.

Day three (3) – I’m thankful for The Little Gym and how much fun my kids have during gymnastics! They have both really taken to it, and the amount of confidence it gives them is inspiring.

Day four (4) – I’m thankful for Starbucks coffee, which got me through my day. More than just that day – but many others.

Day five (5) – I’m thankful for the ablation that has allowed me to be period/PMS free for the last 4.5 year! I think this one speaks for itself.

Day six (6) – I’m thankful to be alive. Today I am filled with sadness and loss but I am still thankful for life.

Day seven (7) – I’m thankful for the quiet time I get when I close my eyes at night and shut out the world and all my stress.

Day eight (8) – I’m thankful for hugs, big and small.

Day nine (9) – I’m thankful for… Yeah I can’t think of anything. To tired I guess, I’ll try again later. This was a bad day.

Day nine (9) – Take Two – I’m thankful for mommy timeout! Not for the kids but for me to think about me and only me.

Day ten (10) – I’m thankful for Big Time Rush which provides me with a half hour of quiet time on Saturday morning!

Day eleven (11) – I’m thankful for Sci-Quest hands on science fun, and a day of kid friendly fun.

Day twelve (12) – I’m thankful for my dad, a veteran who proudly served his country! I love you daddy.

Day thirteen (13) – I’m thankful for the hour of silence I got while getting my nails done. I needed and deserved it – Even if only I think so. 🙂

Day fourteen (14) – I’m thankful that I was raised knowing how to ask for help when I need it and give it when others need it.

Day fifteen (15) – I’m thankful that my contract audit only happens once every few years.

Day sixteen (16) – I’m thankful that tomorrow is Saturday and I get time with my babies.

Day sixteen (16) – AGAIN – I’m thankful to be a woman! We can be strong and independent and yet pretty, soft, and full of emotions too.

Day seventeen (17) and eighteen (18) – I just don’t know, I guess I’m thankful for good intentions.

Day nineteen (19) – I’m thankful that I have a job and an income that can help my family not only live but enjoy life.

Day twenty (20) – I’m thankful for the beautiful amazing sweet baby boy God gave me 5 years ago today!

Day twenty-one (21) – I’m thankful for a day of holiday baking with my mom and daughter. It was just as good as when I was little.

Day twenty-two (22) – I’m thankful for my friends and family and to have them around for the holidays.

Day twenty-three (23) – I’m thankful for leftover pie after a long day of shopping.

Day twenty-four (24) – I’m thankful that my children love me unconditionally and forgive my poor cooking skills.

Day twenty-five (25) – I’m thankful for quiet Sundays with my family.

Day twenty-six (26) – I’m thankful to be celebrating my 37th birthday because the alternative would not be as good.

Day twenty-seven (27) – I’m thankful for the living-room tables that were finally delivered today after 4 months of waiting.

Day twenty-eight (28) – I’m thankful for RELAX Riesling Wine!

Day twenty-nine (29) – I’m thankful to be able to work from home so I can volunteer at my kids’ school from time to time.

Day thirty (30) – I’m thankful for family. Mine is very supportive and encouraging of everything I do even my crazy ambitions.

 

So, that was my month of thankfulness. I could probably do a year – because I give thanks every morning and every evening – but, I won’t bore you with all of that.

I hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving, and that your December holidays (which ever you celebrate) are full of family, fun, food, and friends!

 

Happy Holidays to All!

AWAKEN ~ a Blood Angel novel – 1st Quarter Sales

As you all know, I wrote a book.

Awaken - Cover

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AWAKEN, is the first book in my Blood Angel series, and it was published on July 29th of this year, which only gave me two months to sell during my first quarter in the published world.

How did AWAKEN do?

Well, I sold some books! That’s a start. I just got my quarterly earnings report and I was so happy to see that I sold twenty-three copies in the first two months. Yeah, I know twenty-three copies isn’t going to get me on the best sellers list, but for someone who started this just for fun as a creative outlet the fact that I sold even one book made me happy.

I just wanted to say think you to the twenty-three people out there that cared enough to buy my book. I hope you enjoyed it, and that you are looking forward to book number two, BEGINNINGS!

Beginnings is currently with the editor undergoing what I hope is its final round of edits, but you never know. The plan is to have Beginnings out on the online virtual bookshelves early 2013, but stay tuned to www.ninasoden.wordpress.com for updates.

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For those of you that haven’t picked up your copy yet please do. I am a firm believer in supporting the arts, artists, and anyone trying to make their place in the world. If you feel the same way, please click on one of the links below and GET YOUR COPY TODAY:

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Five Lessons About How We Treat People

Okay, I don’t normally enjoy the forwarded email that seems to come through my account on a regular basis, but this one really touched me. Maybe I’m just emotional today – or most days lately – who knows, but I read it and cried. I think we can all learn a little something from these five little lessons about how we treat people, or rather how we should treat people.

Five lessons about how we treat people.

1 – First Important Lesson – Cleaning Lady.

During my second month of college, our professor gave us a pop quiz. I was a conscientious student and had breezed through the questions until I read the last one: “What is the first name of the woman who cleans the school?” Surely this was some kind of joke. I had seen the cleaning woman several times. She was tall, dark-haired and in her 50’s, but how would I know her name?

I handed in my paper, leaving the last question blank. Just before class ended, one student asked if the last question would count toward our quiz grade.

“Absolutely, ” said the professor.. “In your careers, you will meet many people. All are significant.. They deserve your attention and care, even if all you do is smile and say “hello..”

I’ve never forgotten that lesson.. I also learned her name was Dorothy.

2 – Second Important Lesson – Pickup in the Rain

One night, at 11:30 p.m., an older African-American woman was standing on the side of an Alabama highway trying to endure a lashing rain storm. Her car had broken down and she desperately needed a ride.

Soaking wet, she decided to flag down the next car. A young white man stopped to help her, generally unheard of in those conflict-filled 1960’s. The man took her to safety, helped her get assistance and put her into a taxicab.

She seemed to be in a big hurry, but wrote down his address and thanked him. Seven days went by and a knock came on the man’s door. To his surprise, a giant console color TV was delivered to his home. A special note was attached. It read: “Thank you so much for assisting me on the highway the other night. The rain drenched not only my clothes, but also my spirits. Then you came along.
Because of you, I was able to make it to my dying husband’s’ bedside just before he passed away… God Bless you for helping me and unselfishly serving others.”
Sincerely,
Mrs. Nat King Cole.

3 – Third Important Lesson – Always remember those who serve.

In the days when an ice cream sundae cost much less, a 10-year-old boy entered a hotel coffee shop and sat at a table. A waitress put a glass of water in front of him. “How much is an ice cream sundae?” he asked.
“Fifty cents,” replied the waitress. The little boy pulled his hand out of his pocket and Studied the coins in it.

“Well, how much is a plain dish of ice cream?” he inquired. By now more people were waiting for a table and the waitress was growing impatient..
“Thirty-five cents,” she brusquely replied.

The little boy again counted his coins. “I’ll have the plain ice cream,” he said. The waitress brought the ice cream, put the bill on
The table and walked away The boy finished the ice cream, paid the cashier and left.. When the waitress came back, she began to cry as she wiped down the table. There, placed neatly beside the empty dish, were two nickels and five pennies. You see, he couldn’t have the sundae, because he had to have enough left to leave her a tip.

4 – Fourth Important Lesson. – The obstacle in Our Path.

In ancient times, a King had a boulder placed on a roadway. Then he hid himself and watched to see if anyone would remove the huge rock. Some of the King’s’ wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by and simply walked around it.. Many loudly blamed the King for not keeping the roads clear, but none did anything about getting the stone out of the way.

Then a peasant came along carrying a load of vegetables. Upon approaching the boulder, the peasant laid down his burden and tried to move the stone to the side of the road. After much pushing and straining, he finally succeeded. After the peasant picked up his load of vegetables, he noticed a purse lying in the road where the boulder had been. The purse contained many gold coins and a note
from the King indicating that the gold was for the person who removed the boulder from the roadway. The peasant learned what many of us never understand!

Every obstacle presents an opportunity to improve our condition.

5 – Fifth Important Lesson – Giving When it Counts… This was the one that really got me!
Many years ago, when I worked as a volunteer at a hospital, I got to know a little girl named Liz who was suffering from a rare & serious disease. Her only chance of recovery appeared to be a blood transfusion from her 5-year old brother, who had miraculously survived the same disease and had developed the antibodies needed to combat the illness. The doctor explained the situation to her
little brother, and asked the little boy if he would be willing to give his blood to his sister.

I saw him hesitate for only a moment before taking a deep breath and saying, “Yes I’ll do it if it will save her.” As the transfusion progressed, he lay in bed next to his sister and smiled, as we all did, seeing the color returning to her cheek. Then his face grew pale and his smile faded.

He looked up at the doctor and asked with a trembling voice, “Will I start to die right away”.

Being young, the little boy had misunderstood the doctor; he thought he was going to have to give his sister all of his blood in order to save her.

Most importantly…. “Live with no regrets, Treat people the way you want to be treated, Work like you don’t need the money, Love like you’ve never been hurt, and Dance like you do when nobody’s watching.”

“Never got to be angry or sad” Sometimes easier said than done, but always sound advice.